Lost Letter

I found this message from 3/3/2012 on my facebook page..... How I never saw it, I don't know.  But I just had to share....

I took out the person's name who sent it.....

o    Dear Jeannie, You don't know me, but I've been wanting to write you over the last 3 years. First, I want to express my deepest condolences on the loss of Ken. I knew Missa. I want to let you know that my friendship ended with her prior to Ken's death. I'm writing to you now because it even though it will not bring back Ken, I feel compelled to let you know that Missa has never nor will ever feel any remorse over what she did. For years, I have watched her drink to the point of not even knowing her name. I did everything I could to stop her. I begged her to go to AA. I physically restrained her from getting in the car. I hid her keys. I hid her child so he wouldn't be in the car with her. I would fight and scream and do whatever I could, I hid the alcohol in my house. She didn't care. She never did. She kept on drinking after the incident with Ken. ( I was no longer friends with her but its on her facebook page.) She felt no responsibility ever for any of her actions. The biggest reason I'm telling you this is to beg you to please show up at the sentencing. Please look up her record, her facebook, ask me any questions that you want but PLEASE fight for the maximum sentence. She deserves it. Every minute of it.Your family is not alone in this. She has hurt so many people over the years. God Bless and I'm messaging you from my genuine facebook page. Please feel free to contact me anytime with any questions. Sincerely, ____________

41

41 years ago my Mom and Dad got married. I love you Mom, and am thinking about you today. I miss you Dad, we all do!

Thank You Dad!

"Do the Right Thing, and You Know What the Right Thing is."
-Ken Sheaffer (My Dad) 

Thank you dad.  I recently had to make a very hard decision.  I keep these words close to my heart, they really came in handy this time!  It was a hard thing to do, but I know I did the right thing for my family!  XOXO Miss you Dad.  Thank you for watching out for me!

Justice is Served

Woman gets 13 years for DUI manslaughter

By LEE WILLIAMS
Correspondent

Published: Tuesday, March 20, 2012 at 6:20 p.m.

Last Modified: Tuesday, March 20, 2012 at 6:20 p.m.

SARASOTA - Missa L. Billib was driving drunk — more than twice the legal limit — the night of Nov. 6, 2009, when she left Hoosier's Bar in Osprey and drove into the path of two oncoming motorcyclists.

One rider managed to avoid the collision.

The other, Robert K. "Kenny" Sheaffer, 57, a postal worker and married father of three, was not so lucky.

Sheaffer tried to stop, left more than 38 feet of skid marks, overturned without striking Billib's 2008 Chevy Tahoe and was thrown from his 2005 Harley Davidson.

The accident left Sheaffer brain dead. He died 13 days later, after his family made the difficult decision to remove him from life support.

Billib was convicted of DUI-related manslaughter earlier this month after a three-day trial.

Tuesday, Circuit Court Judge Charles E. Roberts sentenced Billib to 13 years in prison followed by 10 years of probation, just two years shy of the 15-year maximum sought by the prosecution and Sheaffer's family.

"Fifteen years is an extremely small price to pay for taking my dad's life," Sheaffer's daughter Jenny told the judge.

Court documents show Billib, 45, has had previous arrests for DUI, battery, habitually driving with a suspended license and grand theft from a victim over 65 years of age.

She did not testify during her trial, but told the courtroom Tuesday she was sorry for what she had done and that she had been in an abusive relationship.

"I somehow became an alcoholic myself. I can only imagine how you feel," she said. "Through these past two years I have suffered a lot too."

Sheaffer had worked for the U.S. Postal Service for more than 25 years. He married Margaret, his high school sweetheart, in 1971. The couple had one son, Kenny Jr., 41, and twin daughters Jenny and Jeannie, who are 37.

"He was a wonderful guy who worked his butt off for me and our three kids," Margaret Sheaffer said. "He would do anything for anybody. If he became your friend, you'd be friends for life."

Sheaffer also said her husband's death has forever changed her.

"I lost my partner, the love of my life. I don't feel safe going anyplace," she said. "I haven't been out of the house in two years, except a couple times. I don't want to go to church or to meet new people. I'm having a real hard time of it."

Kenny Sheaffer Jr., was satisfied with the sentence because of what Billib put his family through, especially the decision to remove his father from life support.

"She's had a previous DUI and other arrests, so obviously babying her isn't working," he said. "It wasn't her right to take my father away. She acted like judge, jury and executioner."

The Sheaffer family has filed a civil suit against Billib and Hoosier's Bar. The case is pending.

Missa L. Billib

Guilty DUI Manslaughter

Well, the verdict is in.....

Missa Lee Billib has been found guilty of DUI Manslaughter. 

What does this mean?  Well, honestly it does not change my life one bit.  That was done on Nov. 6, 2009 when she drove while intoxicated and carelessly pulled out in front of my Dad as he drove his motorcycle. 

She will be sentenced on March 20, 2012.  How will that change my life...?  Again, it will do nothing to effect the way I live, or anything about my day to day life.  She did that when she decided to drive drunk over 2 years ago.

There is nothing about her, or anything that can happen to her that will have any impact on me personally.  So why do I feel happy that she was found guilty?  Why do I want her to pay the maximum possible penalty??  I don't know, but I do.  I think it is only fair. 

My entire family's life was changed that night..... forever!  There is nothing that can ever put things back the way they used to be.  I just hope that as she sits in prison for up to 15 years, she will remember and reflect on how her decisions changed our lives. 

My sister said this, and I am going to try to say it as nicely as she did.....

My Mom is the true victim in this case.  She is the one who has to wake up every day and look at an empty bed.  She has to look across the dining table at an empty chair.  She has to walk in a garage and see tools that were once used by the love of her life, never to be touched by him again.  She is the one who has to go to bed every night without a good night kiss...

It is Missa who emptied her bed.  Missa took away Mom's conversations at the dining table.  Missa is the reason those tools will never be touched by my Daddy's hands.  And she is ultimately the reason my Mother will never receive another goodnight kiss from her husband. 

I hope that her guilt will in some way help my Mom have some closure.  Of course it will not bring back any of her hopes and dreams, but hopefully it will give her some peace. 

I think that answers my question.....

Why does the guilty verdict make me happy..... because this will help my Mom be able to have some kind of closure.  That's why I'm happy.  I am happy for you MOM!!!!

And why do I want Missa to pay the maximum penalty..... because no sentence can be as horrible as the sentence my Mom is serving for life.  So, no matter what they hand Missa, it will never be what she deserves!!

Mom, I love you with all my heart and am ALWAYS here for you.  Of course, you do not have to read my BLOG to know that!!!  XOXOXO

Thank you Dr. Johnson!

This is Jeffrey Johnson, M.D., FACS.  I saw his face for the first time yesterday when he testified in my Dad's trial.  Why does he mean something to me.... Well, when I saw him walk into the court room, I realized at that moment that it was him, with the help of God, that allowed me to give my Dad that one last hug.  Dr. Johnson is the trauma surgeon that attended to my Dad the night he was brought to Bayfront Medical Center... The night of the accident (Nov. 6, 2009). 

If it wasn't for this man's skilled hands, my Dad may not have made it from the ER to the Neuro ICU. 

Dr. Johnson, the chills I felt when I saw you walk in the room, came from no where other than God.  He was telling me, "Jeannie, this is the angel I sent to take care of your Dad so you could give your him one last a hug and kiss before I took him home." 

Thank you Dr. Johnson for helping my Dad.  And thank you God for letting me say good bye.

See you in Heaven Dad

The Trial started yesterday and ended today.  I was unable to attend yesterday, but did have the honor of representing my father today with my family.  Tomorrow we should hear the verdict.  It will be one of three choices...

1. Guilty of DUI Manslaughter
2. Guilty of DUI
3. Not Guilty

I think I know what it will turn out to be.  I hope justice is served.  All of us, but mostly mom NEEDS this part to be over.  not so we ca forget about it, but so we can remember dad and all the happy times, without this case looming over our heads.  I think we will all gain a sense of peace.

Thank you to all my friends who supported me and my family over the past 2 very rough years!!  We couldn't have made it without year. 

Well no matter what tomorrow brings, no matter how much justice is or isn't served, no matter how much peace we feel or don't feel, I will STILL not be able to hug my Daddy!  I will remember this one last hug for as long as I live!  I love you Dad!!!



See you in Heaven Dad - Nothing will ever change that!

Always in My Heart

This will always be at the TOP of my tree!

My Dad Taught Me That!

04-08-2011
My first burgers on my new grill that Greg bought me!!

Just a little something that my Dad taught me!  I thought of him the entire time I patted and formed these patty's!!! 

Miss you Dad!

You are Missed

Dad,

Mom asked me to find these pictures I took of you in your mail truck.  She, miss you very much.  I know you are watching over us all, but I just want you to know we are all doing OK.  I still look forward to seeing you in our eternal home!

Love,
Jeannie

Ken Sheaffer  ~  Nokomis Post Office  ~  August 2007
Kinda cool when your Dad delivers your mail!

Happy Birthday Dad

I am leaving for work soon, at midnight it will 8/25/10 - I have been thinking of this day since August 1st..... DAD- I miss you and love you - I will miss celebrating your birthday with you. I think I will get the Bonefish Gift Card that I gave you a few years ago (that you never used - we found it in your wallet) and go get some Bang Bang Shrimp - ya know the ones I recommended when I gave you the card.... I should have known you didn't like going out to eat, but you were always so tough to buy for.... Well, I will be thinking of you! Happy Birthday!